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Hey my Taurus peeps! lol I have lived and dealt with Taurus' relations, friends, and lovers my entire life but I am kind of bad with communicating with them when my emotions cloud things. I really need to know how to get it through my boyfriend's thick, taurus skull that we need romance and connection in order to sustain us. His main priority right now is work (understandably so) but we need to be a priority as well. So, far I've tried to be kind, then I got frustrated, and now I'm just pissed off. So, my question is how do I present this information to him that something needs to change without it 1. sounding like change, and 2. without putting him on the defense? Any thoughts would be very much appreciated :)
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Re: Stubborn Taurus
Tue, February 3, 2009 - 3:23 PMWell, first of all, what sign is his Mercury, and what sign is his Moon in?
Cause I have my Sun, Moon, and Mercury in Taurus, so I might be able to help. But if his are different, then it would help to know his emotional and communication styles. -
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Re: Stubborn Taurus
Tue, February 3, 2009 - 3:27 PMI know that his Sun and Moon are both in Taurus but just found out that his Mercury is in Aries. Wow you are even more bullheaded than him. LOL all three in Taurus? Do you have anything else in Taurus? Sorry I didn't mean that in a rude way. -
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Re: Stubborn Taurus
Tue, February 3, 2009 - 3:37 PMAhah, no worries, I didn't see it as rude at all! <3
I also have my North Node in Taurus. :D
And YES, I can be quite stubborn. I also have Capricorn Rising, but luckily I have Neptune 2 degrees away from my Ascendant so it does wonders to balance things for me.
So his communication style is Aries influences.
I think he would be a hard one to communicate with, personally. The Aries Mercury type people can get quite defensive and sensitive cause they are so attached to their ideas. He is also probably a "to the point" kind of guy and doesn't like long, drawn out conversations. He probably just tunes out after a while!
He probably doesn't like to hear all the detail either, he probably just wants to hear the general gist of it. With his Taurus Moon and Sun, it might help to point things out in a 5 senses kind of way, does that make sense?
He definitely doesn't like beating around the bush, cause he won't do it with you. He probably doesn't realize how impatient he is because of his Taurus Sun/ Moon. -
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Re: Stubborn Taurus
Tue, February 3, 2009 - 5:10 PMGreat! Yeah I have an Mars in Aries so I can understand the to the point part but I will just have to push for that more. I know he puts a high priority on cleanliness and food LOL! So, maybe I will start to cook more frequently and get him going that way haha! Thanks for your input Kristina :)
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Re: Stubborn Taurus
Tue, February 3, 2009 - 4:40 PMWell, i imagine that to him, work IS romantic. Men often regain a stronger ambition and focus on their work (putting in long hours) when they're considering a marriage proposal. Consider that he's doing this work thing in part for you. Taurus and venus rule the second house- house of possessions. I know many Taurii who think it's their job to provide for the well-being of everyone, and it's not done out of some abstract sense of duty...it's because we love our people and it makes us feel fuzzy and happy inside to help provide for them. So maybe take a look at his efforts from a different angle.
And um...talk is just talk. You want action? Rub his shoulders when he comes home...TOUCH is the key to getting us in the mood, even if we didn't start that way. If you're not talking about sexual romance, ok...touch will still get you where you want to go. Cuddling is immensely comforting and a great way to reconnect that bond....
If, however, you're talking about going out and painting the town red, not many Tauruses consider that the epitome of romance instead of what I've listed above. -
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Re: Stubborn Taurus
Tue, February 3, 2009 - 5:16 PMI definitely will look at it at a different angle. The hard part is that I look at things from a completely opposite viewpoint (Sun in Pisces) and prefer emotional stability over anything financial he could give me. I guess I will just have to accept his love in this form though. It's a little difficult to understand sometimes though. -
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Re: Stubborn Taurus
Fri, February 13, 2009 - 10:50 AMWith Taurus Sun folks, Love = Security + Stability. If either of those aren't present, they won't feel comfortable and/or loving. Emotional issues take a back seat to Security + Stability. Mess with either of those things and you will have a very unhappy Taurus on your hands.
Ever heard the term "My way, or the highway"? Yep, that was a Taurus talking. Learn to deliver on what they like, when they like it, and you'll have a very happy Taurus :D
Pretty easy to know where you stand, just ask. Most of the Taurus folks I know will tell you exactly what they think. It's quite refreshing, but can be rather blunt and insensitive. The bull has a tough thick skin, and can be rough around the edges. Try not to be offended. -
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Re: Stubborn Taurus
Fri, February 13, 2009 - 12:37 PMMy brother is a Taurus and this is him in a nut shell.
He is very uncomplicated.
Loyal, funny, hard working...and yes, he will tell you the truth if you ask...just be prepared to hear it....
But do not try to push him in a direction he does not want to go...in fact, dont try to push him period.
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Re: Stubborn Taurus
Fri, February 13, 2009 - 12:40 PMPS the opposite of the stubborn quality (in my eyes)
is his being extreemyl grounded and stable.... on all levels.... and this is how he "loves" his family.
He is our "go-to" guy. Not much phases him. He has it 'all under control'....lol.....
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Re: Stubborn Taurus
Mon, July 6, 2009 - 5:46 PMAbout the bluntness of a Taurean (Taurus men please answer). When one says you are not his girlfriend, but you ask if you are something just sexual like a booty call and he says "no". Then what in the world are you? It was something just new and fresh.
For being blunt I was left totally confused.
I was in a LTR with a Taurus before and just went with the flow and we ended up living together. This time I was questioning things right off the bat. I seem to have my guard up lately. I'm afraid of giving completely of myself if I'm simply disposable. This caused a bad situation over the weekend and now he is not responding to me (and he was not innocent either). I don't know if he's moved on or what or just stepped away. -
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Re: Stubborn Taurus
Tue, July 7, 2009 - 10:03 AMI think there is a wide range of personal definitions there. I don't use the term "boyfriend" lightly though I know some people do. I call most of the people I have relationships with "friends" and the friendships range from acquaintance-like to guys I have sex with on a somewhat regular basis. I love my close friends dearly and they would be (and have been) my friends regardless of whether we are sexually active or not. I would *NEVER* consider someone disposable and I don't think that most Taureans would (however, people can be assholes regardless of what sign they are). FWIW, I'm also poly and am most comfortable with more fluid relationships.
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Re: Stubborn Taurus
Mon, June 22, 2009 - 11:01 AMGood luck Jessica...not an easy thing to do with a Taurus. I tried that a while back and im still regretting it..lol...they are very loving..or should I say we..to them work is like #1.
