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Ok my Bull and I have been having a few problems since January of this yr...ok...so we have been trying to work on our relationship...he is so freaken stubburn..Im also a Taurus but Im in a cusp with Gem..so im impatiant as all hell. Ok so me here thinking that this relationship needs help, all of a sudden he appears on my door on May 21st 2009 and tells me to give him a hug....im like ok?????? So he says I have something for you...he gives me the promise ring he had bought for me a while back but because we were having problems he had not given it to me....so im so confused because I thought we were like not that great on our relationship and here he is with my promise ring!!!! Ok i took it and all was ok....But my biggest problem is that I think alot and I assume..and it has always backfired on me....So he was really mad at me when i left the ring at his house because he would not take it....So here I am on Saturday packing my stuff from my apartment and he comes over and I said "sorry I cannot take this shit anymore, im going back home" So he freaked out and said "ok I know what you want to hear..when i gave u the ring I though to myself that we could make this work because I really care about you and the kids" All i wanted to hear was reassurance but he only gave me the explanation just because he saw that I was leaving. I know it was my mistake..but if you unclear about the other persons feelings would you have kept the ring? He said that I should know better that he would not give a ring to someone he did not care about. So yeah now you can tell me what you think.
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Ooops forgot
Fri, July 10, 2009 - 12:43 PMThere is also something else...a while ago I lied to him..prior to the lie he was so open with his feelings, after that he closed up alot....He says that by his actions I should be able to know if he cares or not...Am I crazy or isn't it so that us women in particular like to here the mushy thing once in a while..He got me used to the loving guy...and then he changed, he closed up on me....he says there are consequences for our actions and I understand that. But I want it to be how it used to be....Is there anything wrong with that? He says I need to give him time...wtf -
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Fri, July 10, 2009 - 1:31 PMIf you're a taurus yourself then you should know that once trust is broken with a taurus it's tough (and generally time consuming) to earn back. I know one of my most frustrating traits to others is that it can take me awhile to verbalize the things that really need to be said - just because I can't say them when they want to hear them doesn't mean that I don't feel those feelings. Sounds like he was trying to show you with an action (the ring) something he was having a hard time discussing... my guess would be because he was still not comfortable being completely open because of the lie. -
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Fri, July 10, 2009 - 1:44 PMThank you BiteMe...Yes i understand..but it's so hard to have patience...I feel so confussed because like I said I want the reassurance but he is stubburn as all hell.... -
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Fri, July 10, 2009 - 5:07 PMPatience we have. But...
Have you every heard of the straw
that broke the camel's back? -
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Sat, July 11, 2009 - 7:41 PMUmm...the straw WAS him showing his intentions to stick with you through thick and thin. What do you think a 'promise' ring promises? When you gave it back you rejected his offer.
Simple.
Sounds like a whole lot of drama that didn't even need to happen, and my guess is that you're the major reason for this drama. I think you both might be better off finding people better suited to your personalities. -
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Sun, July 12, 2009 - 9:20 PMmy experience is with a taurus rising/venus taurus and he is very much "If I did it, I MEANT it" type.
It was not about certainty, there is no certainty in life. It was that he made a CHOICE.
He offered that committment to you, regardless and one that he would honor.
He was willing to put his words into actions.
I used to waste time trying to figure out my lover and it really stressed our relationship.
Taurus prefer simple and uncomplicated. And it can be that way. But in my oppinion you are letting
your Gemini influence things and way over thinking them.
Follow his lead. He has taken the inititave. If he has retracted his offer, then you have to deal with damage control.
There is no doubt that he still loves you. Taurus are slow in and out of everything...
But you have rejected him and you have to fix that.
Go to him, tell him you are tired of making things complicated and ready to put it behind you if he is. You seriously are putting the past in the past and leaving it there. You trust his judgment and his words.
Tell him you would like to accept his ring and his promise and move forward if he is still willing to do so.
And that the ball is in his court.
Leave it at that.
If you cannot trust him and take him at his word, it will not work.
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Mon, July 13, 2009 - 6:35 AMYes you are so right!! That is what he tells me that if he does something is because he means it, and he is always telling me on how I should stop trying to analyze everything...he says everything doesn't have a meaning...this weekend I told him..I said I want my ring back..so he laughed and he said you mean MY RING..and im like well yeah...and then he was being sarcastic...but he knows I told him I was sorry so I do believe he will give it back but only on his time..Thank you Oneinmotion
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Mon, July 13, 2009 - 6:45 AMLexie I understand where you are coming from...but I have tried to leave, but he always reminds me of our fairy tale...and I know we are meant to be...i truly do...and iknow i did hurt him by giving the ring back..but i was confused.
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Mon, July 13, 2009 - 4:33 AMOK......
What did you lie about???? -
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Mon, July 13, 2009 - 6:43 AMWhat did I lie about? Ok when my husband passed away I could not sleep for a long time...so i started taking Xanax and also I was smoking...so after I had met him and we were together he asked if I was still taking the pills? And I said no...i said no about the cigaretts also.....His brother in NY passed away on an overdose of Xanax and he said he could not do that again....so i said he had nothing to worry about that I had stopped...well i tried for a while but got back on it....so one night he drove all the way from West Palm to Naples to surprise me and he saw the cigaretts and the pills on my night stand.....he said that it bothered him that I could lie to him so easily...he is very big on trust and loyalty....So he says he has forgiven me for that but I look forward to the day when he can forgive me completely......after that day i have never taken another sleeping pill again.
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